LOVE & RELATIONSHIPS

Written by Bruce E. Palmer, MA LPCMH


 this site is optimized for FirefoxThe curious and interesting stages of growth experienced in the evolution of a loving committed relationship

 

  (Illusionment, Disillusionment, Loving Reality)  is well documented in the plethora of ‘happy ever after’ fairy tales and romantic comedies. Certainly a wonderful experience, and one which helps create the glue and the initial bonding that encourage a couple stay together as they navigate the more difficult and stormy aspects of relationship. The second stage, ‘Honeymoon is Over’ involves the recognition that my beloved does not quite live up to the fantasy projection that he/she should meet my 

LOVE & RELATIONSHIPS: THE COUPLES JOURNEY PART 2

   

A Couples Journey ( Part 1)

Written by Bruce Palmer M.A., L.P.C.M.H.,

We are all aware that the “Happy Ever After” endings to romantic comedies and fairy talestend to be filtered through rose colored glasses and are less than realistic approaches to long term loving, commitment and intimate relationship.

Neither, of course, are the tragedies of ‘Romeo and Juliet’ or ‘Tristan and Iseult’ what we hope for! The question remains; How do we navigate the ups and downs of the couple’s journey over the years?  What are our expectations? Are they realistic, or skewed by either fairy tale or mud splattered lens?

LOVE & RELATIONSHIPS: A Couples Journey ( Part 1)

   

Written by Suzanne Eder

    One of the truly great blessings of adulthood is that Valentine’s Day is no longer a thinly veiled popularity contest, a day when everyone drops cheap cards and candy hearts for their intended into a big box, and then waits with bated breath to see how many of those hopeful offerings have their name on them. I can remember glancing furtively around me every Valentine’s Day during my elementary school years as the cards were handed out, hoping upon hope that I didn’t have the smallest pile.

    From the sage perspective of adulthood, of course, I can see that Valentine’s Day is not a popularity contest – but as a single woman it certainly isn’t my favorite day of the year. If I’m not careful, the relentless gooeyness that assaults me from every media outlet can plunge me into flippancy, cynicism or – on a particularly bad day – despair.

LOVE & RELATIONSHIPS: Being in Love

   

Saying it with Flowers

Written by Lisa Sherwood

I've yet to find a 12-step program to help me break my latest addiction -- reading (and enjoying!) historical fiction books AKA romance novels. Ah, escapism from my very hectic world!
 
It fascinates me how repressed people were back then, such as the Victorian era. (Although, a century from now I wonder how our social customs will be viewed!)
 
Repressed in that "don't hold my hand unless you are planning to marry me," "kiss me and we?ll be engaged by the end of the day," ...and let's just say "risque" behavior beyond that could have a young lady marked with a scarlet letter for the rest of her lifetime. (Oh wait, that's another book in itself!)

LOVE & REALTIONSHIPS: Saying it with Flowers

   

Loving Fearlessly

Written by Joe White

"Fortune favors the brave" and love is not for the faint of heart. Love is the timeless theme adorned in movies, song, and dance. Loving, losing love, and finding love shadows our lives. Most of us, if we are honest, desire love on the deepest level. We want to have someone with whom we can feel completely open, honest, and vulnerable. Yet through direct or indirect experience, we find a gap between our desire and our willingness to fulfill our desire. We share stories of how love has wronged us, how our heart was broken, or how we gave all and received less in return. So, in reaction to these experiences or perhaps in protection, we wrap ourselves with the belief that we don't need love, or that we can't find someone.  Sometimes we just settle for something less than what we want and deserve to avoid potentially having nothing or no-one.

LOVE & RELATIONSHIPS: Loving Fearlessly

   

The Journey To Liberation Overcoming Our Two Core Fears.

Written by Joe White

They are within all of us. Two core fears. No matter how different we are or how different we think we are these fears are the same. They drive the actions we take and the actions we won't take. They can either shape us or imprison us. They define our existence and its quality. The two core fears that affect us all are: we are not enough and if we are not enough then we won't get what we really need, love.

LOVE & RELATIONSHIPS: The Journey To Liberation Overcoming Our Two Core Fears.

   

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